Generally speaking, as humans our instinct is to seek things that bring us pleasure and the absence of pain. Masochism is described in the urban dictionary as, 'the deriving of pleasure, or the tendency to derive pleasure, from being humiliated or mistreated, either by another or by oneself.' Socially we have been told to believe that the emotions caused by shame, pain and humiliation should be avoided for the sake of ones status and dignity.
Humiliation and Masochism can serve as a release from tensions which are caused by the constant need to maintain our identity. Masochism when exercised in a healthy manner, can be therapeutic. For men who crave to be humiliated by their Mistress, a woman who they desire and worship, is the ultimate destruction of their ego, and the experience becomes further intensified because it is often sexualised in a BDSM context.
Masochistic men are strong willed and intelligent, and they want someone better than them to dominate them, if the mistress is superior in every way, psychically and intellectually, they will feel inferior. When brought to subspace, they're compelled to submit, in awe of their beauty, energy and mind of the Mistress, They feel overpowered, overwhelmed and are brought into the moment, away from their cluttered minds. In there most vulnerable state, they are brought to their knees and focused on their mistress.
Life is sometimes a struggle between what we can and cannot control, the Masochist gives in and acknowledges the latter. When a masochist gives in to the will of another, he is relieved of control and feels a euphoric blankness that is free of worrying, free of planning, free of trying to learn and anticipate everything he needs to do. This is why masochists instinctively kneel, bow, and crawl; the physical posturing of the body reflects the psychological posturing of the soul that is ready to submit by abdicating control.
Humiliation and Masochism need not involve an act of aggression or coercion. People can be humiliated through more passive means such as being ignored or overlooked, taken for granted, or denied a certain right or privilege. They can also be humiliated by being rejected, or used as means-to-an-end. It can also be done verbally or physically. Humiliation is definitely a subjective issue, and is dependant on context.
Masochism and humiliation is an escape from ourselves, a release from the burdens of everyday living, a visceral desire to give in and surrender, and a sexual craving that engulfs the mind more than the body. You might now be wondering what kinks actually come into play in a session that may involve Humiliation and Masochism. Again it is subjective as some of these fetishes might not be humiliating for all, but here are a few examples listed;Cuckold Fantasy talk, Chastity, Face Slapping, Feminisation, Human Ashtray, Ruined orgasm, Small Penis Humiliation, Watersports.
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Photo is of a Humiliation slave of mine who had just performed a dance for me with the music choice being 50 cent - Candy shop, he then made a toast with my pee in a champagne glass, and thanked me for allowing him to entertain me and other Mistresses.